The short answer? “NOPE”. You were born to succeed. Let’s take a look at the dynamics of failing and succeeding.
Here’s a checklist to help you to recognize the failure-drivers often motivating people’s actions.
- At the top of my list is belief in non-success. Not quite the same as a belief in failure. Subtle distinction. If a person believes in the possibility of succeeding then experimentation, trial and error are continuous until success is achieved or until all possibilities, ALL possibilities are exhausted and there is no other avenue of pursuit possible. Do you believe that you can succeed in your particular objective?
- Next comes operating within a comfort zone. If success requires trying something new, or exploring something more difficult than anticipated, more challenging or even embarrassing, often many people consider all avenues to have been exhausted and they throw in the towel with the cover story that, “If I can’t do it, it just can’t be done.”
- Too many people do the wrong actions, focus on the wrong elements, instead of identifying and then isolating what in business is called the “Key Success Factors”, (KSFs). Hundreds of years ago an economist name Pareto observed that the about 80% of the world’s wealth was in the hands of just about 20% of the world’s countries. Thus the “Pareto” principle was born and subsequently applied to all manner of lists, including isolating the top 20% of activities the will have the greatest impact on an outcome, on achieving success.
- There may be a lack of skills or lack of training. Rather than asking for an upgrade to one’s capabilities or asking for additional resources or personnel, an attempt is made despite the known inadequacy.
- Then there is the task that requires way too much effort. So the person just pokes around hoping for a lot of luck instead of working to make their own luck. This is much like the larceny motive. You know. The desire to get something valuable for free or for the least amount of effort.
- Often experienced people who have succeeded before are quite willing to act as a mentor or coach or simply to provide valuable advice. Just as often the person who has failed or will fail, just does not want to seek the wisdom to ensure success from those that may be available around him or her.
- When someone who just does not want to invest the time, effort, resources, and discipline to the same level as others who did and who succeeded, there is very low probability that success is around the corner.
- Sometimes those tactics, strategies, opportunities, tools, whatever, are not so obvious and require a great deal of effort to discover or uncover. Yet, it is that detective work that may spell the difference in outcomes.
- When younger my group of friends use to help push each other through some tough working conditions by teasing each other, “What’s a matter? Lazy?” “Can’t stand the music?” “Afraid of a little hard work?” Indeed often it was just a willingness or unwillingness to take the next few motions when on success’s doorstep that spelled the difference between giving up and achieving success.
- And my favorite is reason is a quotation heard recently on one of my favorite streaming radio stations, KEXP.COM. There was a sound bite between songs, “…there is a force in the universe that makes things happen…all you have to do is get in touch with the force.” Use this quotation to remind yourself that there is a special force that can literally move mountains but first you have to discover what force it is that has the power to stand between you and success.
May you succeed beyond your wildest dreams.